How To Process Feedback

How To Process Feedback

How To Process Feedback

Tennyson Stead
Tennyson Stead
2 years ago

In 2021, I wrote a pilot and a feature in my labors as a script doctor and ghostwriter… and in the final tally, I wound up writing 6 pilots and nine features by the end of that year. Only one of those films was under my own name.

In 2022, my goal was to make enough headway with my own spec sales, films in development, and transmedia projects that I can charge more, work less, and focus on what I have to give the audience. I made it my focus to get my sci-fi heist feature into production, start illustrating my transmedia family sci-fi project, and sell some screenplays along the way. Phasing out the paid services I’d been performing for producers and writers in the community also meant I would have more time for free services, like the blogs I write for Stage 32.

In the meantime, I’ve been working as a screenwriting and industry mentor with an ongoing series of clients. I’m taking a mentorship with a social media exec, with the intention of replacing most or all of my sales prospecting with brand development. My mentor’s telling me there’s a simpler, cleaner way to find new business… and I really, really hope she’s right. For all these reasons, I’ve been thinking about how we know good advice from bad advice in this industry.

How To Handle Advice and Critique

THE FEAR OF CHASING OUR TAILS

In my previous article “DAVID LYNCH AND THE TWO HOLLYWOODS,” I talk about the line between the industry of making movies… and the industry of breaking into the industry of making movies. Giving people advice in Hollywood is a whole career path unto itself, and succeeding in that career doesn’t always have a lot to do with helping your clients succeed in their dreams and goals. To make money in this line of work, it might be enough just to maintain the public impression that your authority is real and that what you’re offering is valuable.

Doing that job doesn’t necessarily come with a lot of special qualifications. People have built fortunes on the advice they give to writers and other showpeople, without ever having built sustainable showbusiness careers of their own. In fact, most people wind up working in this field specifically because their career isn’t making the money they need. In my own case, that’s certainly true.

Writers, as well as actors and other creatives, can waste their whole careers chasing the arbitrary goals that other people in the industry have placed in our crosshairs. If we’re paying money to hear that advice in the first place, the financial cost of chasing bad advice can be enormous to a struggling writer. How do we know when it’s worth the hassle, and when we’re getting the runaround?

Well, there are basically three kinds of advice. Let’s look at them, break them down, and place them in context. My hope, by the end of this article, is to show you how to put any given piece of advice in a more objective context.

How To Handle Advice and Critique

IDEAS

In my blog on “CASHING IN YOUR MILLION DOLLAR IDEA,” I tear down the notion that Hollywood is a marketplace of ideas. In any creative industry, people hone their craft because they are driven by ideas they need to express. Nobody needs more ideas in Hollywood, so ideas have no real value in Hollywood… and when someone steps into your life and tells you what you should be writing about, or what details could be changed to make your story better, that person is assuming that their ideas are on some level more valuable than yours. Unless the suggestions this person is making are supported by an underlying skill this person is trying to teach you, there’s not a lot of value in whatever this person is trying to offer.

What I’m saying here is that it’s one thing if a colleague is making a suggestion in order to illustrate a larger practice that will improve your writing. That person might be onto something. If this is someone who’s just hung up on the idea that an idea has value in and of itself, and that some ideas are more valuable than others, then it’s probably a safe bet that this person doesn’t have much experience with the craft of screenwriting. In fact, this person is probably clinging to the hope that the right idea will bring them success specifically because they don’t actually know how to build the kind of success they’re looking for.

If someone is buying lottery tickets every Friday night, don’t take financial advice from that person. Unless you’re talking to someone in marketing (because marketing is all about selling ideas), placing the value of ideas above the value of craft is an act of desperation. Avoiding the advice of these people will simplify your life, it will help keep you sane and balanced, and will cost you nothing in the long run.

How To Handle Advice and Critique

TOOLS

For decades, my composer and I have held one another to task when it comes to our discipline, our habits, and our ethics as showpeople. He’s from Queens, and I’m from Boston. He came from the New York metal and punk scene, and I’m a New England theater kid. Weakness in showbusiness is something we share a profound and comical lack of patience for… and very few things will get the both of us to gang up and gleefully rip a new asshole into some jerk’s ego faster than the phrase “All you gotta do is.”

You know the phrase I’m talking about. “Bro. All you gotta do is know your brand.”

“All you gotta do is get a manager.”

“All you gotta do is make a concept reel.”

If you bring that crap to my doorstep, all you gotta do is run faster than I can catch you. All you gotta do, if you must know, is produce a sustainable and ongoing series of amazing productions and build a strong, sustainable community that supports them. If someone is telling you there is a shortcut you haven’t discovered yet, that person thinks your career isn’t moving forward because you don’t know how Google works. Forget that person. Quickly.

If a person is showing you what works for them, because they’ve succeeded in the thing you are trying to do, that’s one thing. Sharing that tool is an act of generosity, whether or not you were already aware of the information they’re giving you. At the same time, tools like these aren’t going to change your life. Realizing that you’re not taking full advantage of the services available to you can be helpful. Maybe we can save some energy in our routine, and apply it elsewhere. Maybe we can make more of this or that ongoing effort. Maybe it’s a baby game-changer, but it’s not something you can build a career on.

If someone is offering you a new tool as a friendly gesture, that’s certainly a reasonable spirit in which to receive that kind of advice. If someone expects gratitude, or some kind of quid-pro-quo, in exchange for information about the tools and resources of your trade, that person is failing to respect your experience and professionalism. If someone wants money to tell you “all you gotta do is,” there’s a real good chance you already know more about success in show business than they do.

How To Handle Advice and Critique

HABITS

Five out of seven decisions we make are unconscious. If something’s not working in our career, it’s overwhelmingly likely that our habits are the problem. If someone is advising us to develop new habits, that person is troubleshooting in the right place.

With that said, developing new habits is very time intensive, it’s exhausting, and it’s always possible that we’re going to replace constructive practices with less advantageous ones. Spotting the habits that will advance our craft and maximize our productivity is crucial… and by and large, those habits are going to be simpler than the habits we already have. If someone is telling you that you need to build a screenplay around a fifteen-point system and that you need to learn a new story language to use that system effectively, that person is probably full of crap. If someone tells you that writing for actors means giving your characters actions and letting those actions drive the story, the beats, the tone, the themes, and so forth, then resisting that information on the basis of defending that fifteen-point system might be just a little bit crazy.

Anytime someone offers you a systemic approach to a problem, the thing to do is to look for the core assumptions that drive that system. On the surface, a system for keeping your screenplay active and structured might look very much the same as a system built to get that screenplay to conform to a more arbitrary set of criteria… but the system that’s built to keep you focused on the action of your story is driving you towards a very simple practice. All it is, really, is a plan for keeping you disciplined. Figure out whether you’re looking at a plan for mastering simple practices, or a system that was created for the sake of having something to sell.

Find the core assumptions behind the habits you are being asked to learn. How many of them are there? Do you agree with them? Do they offer a system of thought that seems simpler and more truthful than the system you’re working with currently? If a new habit offers you more direct control over your fundamentals than you currently have, then learning it will probably seem scary. Learn to recognize that fear, and engage it. If you keep mastering the habits that make you feel that way, your work and your career will continue to evolve right before your eyes.

How To Handle Advice and Critique

SIMPLE AND EASY ARE NOT THE SAME THING

If finding success in entertainment was as simple as finding the right loophole or getting a subscription to the right website, then every person with a million-dollar idea would be running a studio. When someone pushes us towards the easy answers, at the expense of the simple ones, it’s a very clear sign that this person has nothing of substance to offer the industry. Maybe that person has the power or money we need, and it’s certainly true that a person can bring more to this industry than just their craft…

…but please, do not sacrifice the quality of your craft to people like this. Know that someone who doesn’t understand what’s good about you, your work, or your contributions to the industry isn’t going to suddenly see things clearly just because you’ve validated their egos or their approach to the industry. Keep your focus unerringly on your fundamentals, and that focus will keep you honest.

Many, many times on this blog, I’ve said that anybody who’s asking you to focus on something other than the strength of your craft or the strength of your community is selling something. If you ever get the impression that my advice is steering you away from the practices that keep your filmmaking and your film community strong, then that same standard applies to me. Keep your fundamentals in front of you, lose the number of anyone who tries to pry them out of your hands…

…and when someone comes along with information that suggests success in show business might be simpler and more challenging than you had previously dared to imagine, put your discipline to the test. Show up, find out what that person has to say, and learn how to do what they do. Make the most of their time and their effort, because that person is trying to make the most of yours.

If you're looking for more advice and are unsure where to go to receive feedback, you can check out The Stage 32 Writer's Room! Every Monday at 6:00 pm PST you can join the Writer's Room Coverage Report, built on giving and receiving notes on your work! This upcoming Monday, June 12th there will be a special Coverage Report with the director/producer of "Night Train", Shane Stanley. You can join the Writer's Room HERE and then join in this upcoming Coverage Report discussion in the Official Lounge Post HERE.

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Tennyson Stead

Tennyson Stead

Director, Producer, Screenwriter

Tennyson E. Stead is a master screenwriter, a director, a worldbuilder, and an emerging leader in New Hollywood. Supported by a lifetime of stagework, a successful film development and finance career, and a body of screenwriting encompassing more than 50 projects, Stead is best known for writing an...

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13 Comments on Tennyson Ewing's Article

Michael A. Levine
Music Composer, Producer, Screenwriter, Songwriter
These are useful thoughts from somebody in the trenches. I appreciated your honesty about your own status. Way too many "advice" books are written by those whose business is advice books. There's a story I've told before on Stage 32 about how when I was working with Robert Towne (as a musician) I showed him McKee's analysis of Chinatown, which he'd never seen. He read it, said he thought it was "very interesting", and that it had absolutely nothing to do with what he was thinking when he wrote it. I've had a reasonably successful career as a film and TV composer. I just returned from teaching a 2-week film scoring workshop at NYU. All of the students were accomplished musicians but few had ever had a teacher tell them the purpose of film scoring isn't to write music but to help tell a story. No matter the technical expertise of a teacher (or advice giver) if they don't get that, they are failing their students. I also give a presentation called How I Got My Gig (And Other Tale Tales), which acknowledges the sheer randomness of a career in this kooky business yet informed by those same things you mention: tools, habits, and simplicity. Thanks for posting.
2 years ago
Ashley Smith 23
Creative Executive, Script Consultant, Producer
Thank you for sharing this excellent advice with the community, Tennyson! It's never easy to process feedback, but it's so important to learn how to digest the advice and critiques of others to improve and move forward, especially as a creative.
2 years ago
Steven Vincent
Screenwriter
Well written and squares with my own experience and thoughts. I would add that writing is first and foremost about the artist's need for personal creative expression and secondarily about the craft and technique of the art form of writing. You need both. I have a 4.8 out of 5 rating on CoverflyX feedback because when I give coverage on a script, I always look to help the writer understand the core essence of what they are trying to express creatively and then help them see what techniques are needed to accomplish that expression. I lean into the good and ask the writer to build on those elements, consider eliminating that which does not support it, and add that which does. People generally find this approach very helpful, even though it is critical and not sycophantic.
2 years ago
Tennyson Ewing Stead
Director, Producer, Screenwriter
Any given thing we do is 2/7ths conscious intention, and 5/7ths habit. I maintain that a writer with a dumb idea and fantastic habits can always fail upwards. The same is not true of a writer with the single greatest idea in human history, but no technique. That's been my experience!
2 years ago
Maurice Vaughan
Screenwriter
Excellent blog and advice, Tennyson! I can always use advice on how to process feedback. Thanks!
2 years ago
Tennyson Ewing Stead
Director, Producer, Screenwriter
You are most welcome!
2 years ago
Mary Huckstep
Screenwriter, Author, Script Consultant
"If you bring that crap to my doorstep, all you gotta do is run faster than I can catch you." Good grief, that made me choke on my tea, Tennyson. Your blogs should have a warning on them: Watch for falling pay-offs. LOL
2 years ago
Tennyson Ewing Stead
Director, Producer, Screenwriter
I'm glad it's working for you, Mary!
2 years ago
Marcel Nault Jr.
Host/Presenter, Screenwriter, Author, Agency Assistant
Fascinating blog. I think the motto "trust your instincts" couldn't be more à-propos here. I'm a guy who goes with his guts, all the time. So many people can take advantage of one's welfare and one's excitement, hence why I remain vigilant when it comes to this.
2 years ago
Tennyson Ewing Stead
Director, Producer, Screenwriter
There's two sides to this. Instinct is born of habit, and not all habits are created equal. Any opportunity to strengthen our habits will also strengthen our instincts... and habits have self-defense mechanisms. Our instincts can definitely steer us away from constructive change, when they're coming from maladaptive habits. That's something to always be mindful of!
2 years ago
Deborah Jennings
Author, Content Creator, Producer, Researcher
Great blog with fair warning. I have experienced both sides of the coin here when paying for help from "so-called" Executives who have worked in some way on well-known projects. I have learned to be more selective to save myself time and money. Even then, it may not be the right "fit" for me and my project. This is a tough and sometimes brutal business. Thanks for the reminder.
2 years ago
Tennyson Ewing Stead
Director, Producer, Screenwriter
Very happy to be of service, Deborah.
2 years ago
Pamela Van Amstel
Filmmaker, Screenwriter
When someone gives you feedback and you have no clue how you could utilize that advice on your script. It just doesn't translate.
2 years ago
Tennyson Ewing Stead
Director, Producer, Screenwriter
Fair enough!
2 years ago
Haley Mary
Actor, Songwriter, Comedian
Great blog! I often hear on webinars that artists need to know their brand, have a manager, agent, have a reel and clips. I like to work on my comedy independently and have a youtube channel where I vlog or make short slideshow videos of my pet photos. Only needed Microsoft Lifecam and photostageslideshow editor for that.
2 years ago
Maurice Vaughan
Screenwriter
Love it!
2 years ago
Maurice Vaughan
Screenwriter
Extremely helpful.
2 years ago
Leonardo Ramirez
Screenwriter, Author, Voice Actor
Nicely said. A great reminder of the importance of our motives when giving advice. It must be genuinely about them. And when receiving it, weighing the intent in which it’s given. We can’t know the inner workings of everyone’s heart but we can know if the advice truly benefits the work while keeping our confidence in who we are. And care, really care about the person we’re encouraging. Thank you for writing this much needed article, Tennyson.
2 years ago
Steven Vincent
Screenwriter
Extremely helpful.
2 years ago
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