Why Your Reputation Is More Important Than Your Talent

Why Your Reputation Is More Important Than Your Talent

Why Your Reputation Is More Important Than Your Talent

Alexia Melocchi
Alexia Melocchi
2 years ago

There is no Business like Show Business.

And possibly that is true, as there is no place, other than politics, that a good or bad reputation can travel faster than a supersonic jet.

You have to treat your reputation as your most prized possession in Hollywood. There seems to be a misunderstanding about what reputation truly means. A solid reputation is built on professionalism but even more so on how good a human being you are on a solid ground of authenticity and I, for one, quote more than once the saying, "This is not Show Friends, it is Show Business," because there has to be a definite approach to a career in film and television by displaying the proper business etiquette.

Ultimate success is achieved with both talent and relationships, and this combination creates a positive reputation.

As Stage 32 CEO R.B Botto has spoken about so eloquently in my podcast, The Heart of Show Business, I want to remind you that "you are the CEO of YOU, INC".

You have to treat your career primarily as a business first, with a VITAL element of authentic networking and genuine relationships from the very beginning.

Why Reputation Trumps Talent

Connection and relationships trump talent every single time

How often have you seen a writer, director, or actor who wasn't as talented as an A-Lister gain elite status because of close friendships with decision-makers?

How many times have you seen artists stand out from a crowd and get a sudden opportunity to skyrocket their professional career because of one call, made by a powerful connection, that mentors and champions such artists?

I'm a storytelling advocate. But I'm also known as a unifier and super-connector, with a "Rolodex" that I built over 30 years. I'm fortunate enough to have access to the best of the best worldwide, from agents, managers, celebrities, studio execs, distributors, international producers, and financiers. I was not an overnight success. I chose strategically and aligned myself with people I admired.

These people are my reputation protectors to this day.

I regularly listen to pitches on the Stage 32 platform, and I observe the content creators as they interact with me. There is a pattern when those pitch sessions go south- I have seen it as well while sharing the stage as a panelist at the Women in Entertainment for Filming In Italy event and the Hane Saga Storytelling conference in Utah.

Why Reputation Trumps Talent

I am here to shine the light on the three things that will help your reputation and the three things that could destroy it

I was on a yacht in Cannes where my clients were pitched this little movie called "CODA." Indeed, it was not a typical Summit title after Hunger Games, Anna, or La La Land. But I can tell you one thing: all theatrical distributors who were output partners at Lionsgate wanted to be in business with Patrick Wachsberger.

Many balked at the "smallness" and not having major talent on board of “Coda”. Still, Patrick's reputation for his winning instincts and the relationships he built over the years, had the first round of buyers sign on to the film before production.

You can make these alliances, too, with three easy, actionable steps:

1. INVITE A LEADER TO LUNCH

You may not have the perfect logline, sales sheet pitch, deck, script, or sizzle but if you have a small budget to invest in sharing a meal with someone who can help your career, do that.

There is nothing like two people sitting at a table across from one another and conversing about life. Plus, you get the executive away from office distractions.

When he first started working in Hollywood, Brian Grazer was working as an assistant in a studio lot. He would go into an empty office and call all the people he ultimately wanted to work with on his lunch break. Grazer sometimes would call them for months until finally, they would accept. He was curious about people and their life stories and made some of the most important movies and shows of our time as a result of creating meaningful connections.

Why Reputation Trumps Talent

2. BE OPEN TO FEEDBACK

I have seen writers, filmmakers, or even producers who do not accept critique from anybody way too many times.

The content creators who are the most humble and easy to work with are the ones that decision-makers prefer to hire. We will take nice and kind over perfect and arrogant.

Therefore, be open to the feedback of those who have been around longer than you. You are asked for adjustments to your material for good reasons. They're not trying to destroy your work. They're trying to make it better from a perspective of experience.

3. ASK QUESTIONS

Show interest and curiosity towards the person or company you want to do business with. It's not about their credits, or whether they work with the biggest stars in Hollywood or they made box office successes.

It's about finding particular things about their persona that drew your attention in the first place. You may have seen their animal advocacy work, or perhaps they are specific sports fans, or they profess that they had a unique mindset or approach behind their successful careers.

You will be amazed how shared commonalities and interests can become a solid relationship foundation.

Why Reputation Trumps Talent

The most powerful reputation-destroyers

Here is a truth nugget: the biggest turnoff and relationship destroyers I know are rooted in the ego and are easy to spot. Here are the most common ones.

1. YOU TALK AND PROJECT NON-STOP

I have listened to pitches where there is no courtesy hello or small talk. You don't even know my name or what I have done in the Industry as far as I know. This is a huge turnoff, showing a lack of manners and pure selfishness.

2. YOU SEE THE PRODUCER AS A MEAL TICKET

You think that everything is due to you. The producer is not a bank, nor is sitting on a couch idle just waiting for a straightforward moneymaker that you believe you have to offer them. A producer is a champion who will be there by your side to help see your work get produced, sold, and distributed. They're not a stepping stone for you, to make you famous or rich, for you to discard once you get what you want.

Hollywood is no walk in the park, but you have to remember that a producer or an executive will be able to tell right away if you're looking at them as a way to benefit you and only you versus getting to know them and making sure that they will be your partner, your ally, your collaborator and treated with value and respect.

Why Reputation Trumps Talent

3. YOU DO NOT KNOW IT ALL

I have been in meetings or on calls with content creators to tell me that they know the business more than I do. When they have been around only a few months, they base their "know everything" on what they have read and not what they have experienced. The ones that have the experience never pretend to be knowing of everything. They always strive to learn from others and get different perspectives because the business is constantly in flux.

"If I take care of my character, my reputation will take care of itself." - D.L. Moody

The creation of opportunity from not only professional experience through authentic connections will not only be financially rewarding in the long run. Still, it will open up pathways you never even knew existed and make the journey to success more enjoyable and lasting.

That I know for sure.

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About the Author

Alexia Melocchi

Alexia Melocchi

Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor

Alexia Melocchi is a partner in LITTLE STUDIO FILMS and has had a successful career in the international marketplace, as both a sales agent and buyer’s rep for eleven territories, giving her diverse exposure to all types of films and functions in the entertainment industry. As producer and developm...

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29 Comments on Alexia's Article

Zoltan Deak
Producer
Thank you, Alexia. Just a quick note on the extreme power of inviting someone to lunch as you mentioned. I am also a sales agent and when I invited a potential client to lunch and spent time learning about his project, I was chosen out of 5 other sales agents even though I had the least amount of experience, simply because he felt that I cared about his movie enough to spend time with him and listen. There is no place for arrogance not just in this industry, but anywhere in the world.
2 years ago
Maurice Vaughan
Screenwriter
Phenomenon blog, Alexia! Generally, reputation is more important than talent. I’ve heard of actors who were passed on projects or fired because of their reputations. “Grazer sometimes would call them for months until finally, they would accept. He was curious about people and their life stories and made some of the most important movies and shows of our time as a result of creating meaningful connections.” That’s great! Networking isn’t just about talking with people about projects. Networking is also about building relationships. Thanks for writing this blog and the actionable steps!
2 years ago
Maurice Vaughan
Screenwriter
You're welcome. I've heard stories of big-name actors who loss jobs and opportunities because they were difficult to work with on set. If reputation affects big-name actors (who make studios, production companies, streamers, etc. big money), it affects everyone.
2 years ago
Alexia Melocchi
Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor
Thank you for your insights. Yes I have met a few of those who won't get work as they are difficult to deal with.
2 years ago
Bharat D Bhatt
Director, Filmmaker, Playwright, Producer, Screenwriter, Stage Director, Theatre Director, Voice Artist
Extremely helpful Alexia. Thanks.
2 years ago
Bharat D Bhatt
Director, Filmmaker, Playwright, Producer, Screenwriter, Stage Director, Theatre Director, Voice Artist
Extremely helpful.
2 years ago
Doug Kayne
Actor, Comedian, Director, Screenwriter, Studio Teacher
I believe it was Garry Marshall who said, "Above all, be nice"...or something to that effect. Good to know there's still value in that.
2 years ago
In other words, I was right to choose chemical engineering over the show business! Because "Connection and relationships trump talent every single time" = "This business is built on nepotism and cares nothing about merit"! And THAT is NOT a line of work one would (or should) want to be in!
2 years ago
Justin Turah
Screenwriter, Author
Thank you for sharing this. Great honor to meet you on this platform
2 years ago
Kristina Vidanec
Set Decorator, Author, Language Coach
Thank you so much for this article. I love it! It was a real eye opener for me. Many months ago, I enthusiastically wanted to get in touch with my favourite actor who is of the same generation as me, only to have found out through media that he cannot look at a woman's eyes who is old as he is. That immediately turned me off in pursuing any communication or to even stay his fan. That was such disappointment. Throwing all my energy in vain. Personally, I get precious inspiring moments to write mostly short stories, essays, and poems. He was my inspiration.
2 years ago
Enza Fangio
Screenwriter, Content Creator, Author
Alexia, Ottimo consiglio! On a lighter note, it reminds me of my mother’s advice when we headed to Italy in the summer, especially during my high school and college years, and she would really harp on it if my school friends would be joining us. “La cattiva reputazione si diffonde a macchia d’olio, specialmente nei piccoli paesi.” Translated to English: A bad reputation spreads like wildfire, especially in small villages.
2 years ago
Marguerite Faure
Content Creator, Screenwriter
This was extremely helpful, thank you, Alexia. If you ever find yourself in Cape Town, South Africa, I'd love to invite you for lunch :)
2 years ago
Denise Greenlick Jackrel
Screenwriter, Comedian
Alexia, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and experiences. I'm still surprised to read that Academy Award Winner Marlee Matlin was not enough of a marquee name for some to give credibility to CODA. It was a must-watch movie for me! I started sobbing, as if on cue, during "Ruby's" audition scene when she started signing to her family in the balcony. This was while I flew from NYC to AZ to visit my kids at their universities. All awards won are well deserved for this movie. Very validating essay. Thanks again!
2 years ago
Lisa Kate
Manager, Talent Scout, Producer
Amazing. Fantastic insight. I'm glad I'm portraying those business strategies and heading in the right direction . Many thanks Talent Image Entertainment Ltd T.I.E PRODUCTIONS
2 years ago
Very useful and insightful. Thank you for sharing.
2 years ago
Sam Cochran
Marketing/PR, Screenwriter
Wise and helpful advice, Alexia. Appreciate your time with writing this.
2 years ago
Alexia Melocchi
Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor
Appreciate your recognition!
2 years ago
Adam Blakemore
Graphic Designer, Art Director
Useful article Alexia, and so true about being open to feedback (even though it can be hard to hear!)
2 years ago
Alexia Melocchi
Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor
It is hard when you are vulnerable. Just stay open to it. Not everyone is gonna be right. Openness is the key.
2 years ago
Haley Mary
Actor, Songwriter, Comedian
Very helpful advice! Sometimes I find it hard to be open to feedback when writing short stories or lyrics because if I wrote about something that happened in real life, the person giving me feedback might tell me to write something a different way than the way it happened. It's easier to write short stories or lyrics not based on real life because I find it's easier to change up the story and not be so attached to how I think the story should go.
2 years ago
Leonardo Ramirez
Screenwriter, Author, Voice Actor
Loved this post. And like I've mentioned before, it's not about what we can get. It's about what we can give as a result of a successful career. My hope is that everyone I come across feels heard.
2 years ago
Alexia Melocchi
Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor
Absolutely. In every business, team work makes the dream work.
2 years ago
William Joseph Hill
Actor, Screenwriter, Filmmaker
This is so good, Alexia. Very good advice for anyone. It's always good even for those of us who've been around for a while to review these tips to make sure we haven't fallen into any of the ego traps. It takes a lot of work to build relationships, and hardly any effort to destroy them if you aren't careful.
2 years ago
Alexia Melocchi
Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor
Exactly. Hollywood can be either very supportive or a sea of sharks. But I think kindness and professionalism are your life boats...
2 years ago
Jody Cirame
Producer, Content Creator, Host/Presenter, Videographer, Student, Author
Thank you Alexia! One reason I’m invested in the movie business is that exactly- finding like minded friendly fun kind-hearted hard working people to share my love of filmmaking as I continue to learn more all the time.
2 years ago
Alexia Melocchi
Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor
They are out there I promise you. Very grateful for this Stage 32 community. Those aligned with your energy will see you. Rooting for you!
2 years ago
Maria Bird
Screenwriter, Author
Very honest and useful. Bravo!
2 years ago
Alexia Melocchi
Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor
Grazie mille!
2 years ago
Donald Lewis
Screenwriter
So smart and on the money. Thank you, Alexia!
2 years ago
Alexia Melocchi
Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor
You are most welcome!
2 years ago
Richard Sabino
Screenwriter
A wonderful, authentic and truly insightful article. It is always wise to be open and honest to others as well as to yourself. Thank you Alexia for sharing this with us.
2 years ago
Alexia Melocchi
Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor
Thank you Richard. Really appreciate the feedback.
2 years ago
Catherine Cole
Screenwriter
Alexia, thanks SO ,much for your invaluable words. You clearly walk this walk, talk this talk, listen, learn, connect and appreciate your journey all along the way!
2 years ago
Alexia Melocchi
Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor
Thank you Catherine. So appreciate being connected to you. And thank you for coming to my classes! Can't wait to see what's in store for us.
2 years ago
MB Stevens
3D Animator, Screenwriter, Voice Actor
Awesome advice on the do's and don't of relationship building. We should treasure our relationships and not our self-interests. Onward and upward.
2 years ago
Alexia Melocchi
Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor
Now that's an instagram quote..thank you!
2 years ago
Zelene Dolton
Author, Story Analyst, Screenwriter
Wow, this is one of my favorite articles on here. I might delete this comment soon because it's a bit personal. There's a huge difference between being professional and trying to create genuine connections with people. Unfortunately, people can be quite cruel so it's best to be professional instead of getting close to others. I remember one day I was going on a job interview and I asked my mom should I be myself/ relaxed try to build a genuine bond or should I be a polite and professional robot, she said it depends on the temperament of the person.
2 years ago
Alexia Melocchi
Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor
Hi Zelene- always be yourself- while respecting those you want to be close to. you can balance both.
2 years ago
SherLann D. Moore
Content Creator, Screenwriter
This business is tricky. Everyone thinks everybody is trying to get something out of them. On one hand you want to share who you've partnered up with to raise money for a film, but on the other hand you don't want your partners to feel like you're using their names to raise money of which you will use to handsomely pay your partners. This is the circle of madness I currently find myself in. LOL
2 years ago
Alexia Melocchi
Producer, Content Creator, Sales Agent, Advisor
I think as long as everyone is on the same page on strategy you can "name drop".
2 years ago
Michael Arturo
Actor, Playwright, Screenwriter
Kiss up and maybe they'll throw you a bone. F-off!
2 years ago
Maurice Vaughan
Screenwriter
Extremely helpful.
2 years ago
Brandy Spohn
Voice Artist, Producer, Sales Agent
Thank you, Alexia
2 years ago
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