How to Move Forward After Getting a "No"

How to Move Forward After Getting a "No"

How to Move Forward After Getting a "No"

Sille Larsen
Sille Larsen
4 years ago

No matter what role you play in the entertainment industry (actor/writer/producer/etc), rejection is part of the process. We all hear “no” constantly, but what do you do after?

I will guide you through easy steps on how to handle a no, and how to take new chances.

First, let me introduce myself. I am a young Danish girl, who wants to be a screenwriter. At the moment I am not writing anything new, I’m simply rewriting my finished scripts. Other than that I'm an active member here on Stage 32 I want the community and our fellows in there to talk and make connections with each other. I live by the notion that the more we share, the more we learn. When I am not writing, I try to find new energy by working out. I have the same dream as all my fellows, and it is my goal to go to film school in the US soon. Now to the subject.

We all spend hours trying to make our script, production, music, editing, etc. perfect. And what do we do after? We try to get in contact with people inside the industry. We are so proud of the work we have created and are sure that a person inside the industry will pay attention. But nothing is easy as it looks.

How to Move Forward After Getting a No

You decide to send your work to a film company or a producer. After a while, you receive a mail where it says that they don´t want your work, or they simply just say “no” because they can. And what do you do from there? Here are my tips.

1) Taking Direction

Try to look at your work, and see if there is something you could do differently, if so, try to write it down, and put it in your work, and see if that works.

2) Stay True to Your Dream

Never let a “no” or no response ruin your passion and your dream. There is no one who will get a “yes” the first time they try to get in touch with a person or a company inside this industry. If you get a no doesn’t mean you don't have the talent or the right product, it simply means you have to try again and try to find a new way in.

When you have looked at your work and changes what you think was wrong (if there was something at all) and you have accepted the “no” you got, you can move to step 3.

How to Move Forward After Getting a No

3. Find Community

Reach out to your fellows right here on Stage 32! Stage 32 is not just a place where people have the same passion, it’s the largest platform for us who wants to be in the industry or maybe is already in it.

Make a post in one of the lounges and ask your fellows for advice or ideas on how to move forward from that “no”. There are many members on Stage 32 who have experienced the same things as you, so why don’t share it with each other and support, and advice one another?

4. Learn & Seek Feedback

If you still haven’t found a new solution, try to attend different webinars or pitch sessions where you can get feedback from people who know the industry and ask them how you can move forward. - there is always a solution, you just have to find it.

5. Get Inspired

If you still don't know what to do look up different stories from people who also got a no but still stand. It’s not a bad thing to ask people for help or advice, no matter what. Even if you are in the industry you still ask your colleagues for help or even ask them to look at your work to get other eyes on it. Because sometimes we need other people’s opinion to make our work perfect.

How to Move Forward After Getting a No

Take me as an example:

I applied for our movie school in Denmark, and our media school. I have put so much work into this application and I had attended in so many things, written a screenplay, and was so proud and sure I would get in because of my enthusiasm for this. But I got rejected both places, and I was sad, yes, and I didn’t understand why I got rejected. But it didn´t stop me from writing or connecting with people around the world.

I found out I have to find my way, and I can now see that there is nothing more I can do in Denmark to get where I want, so I have to find another way, and maybe that way will pay off, or maybe it won’t, but I have to try.

We can’t just sit and wait for people to see us and our work, we have to fight for it, and when we finally have it, then we deserve the knowledge from the world because we did it.

I wish you good luck with your work, and remember: We aren’t flawless just because we get a “no” the first or the second time we ask!

Share your story, and make it okay to get a no, and to take chances!

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About the Author

Sille Larsen

Sille Larsen

Screenwriter

The thing I love about screenwriting is that there are no rules about how a story has to be, it is a unique way to create something that other people can watch. I'm a self-taught screenwriter, based in Copenhagen. When I write, I write something that inspires me to create a fictional story,...

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11 Comments on Sille's Article

Rachel Ochsen
Story Analyst, Script Consultant
Your enthusiasm is a BLESSING, Sille Larsen ! Maybe you'll discover that life post-film school will lead you into mentoring! 
4 years ago
Ingrid Wren
Screenwriter, Author
I love your enthusiasm Sille!  An inspiring read for a foggy winter morning.  I wish you the best of luck with your projects and your big dream...
4 years ago
Great advice! Thanks for sharing this:)
4 years ago
Thank you for sharing Sille
4 years ago
Sille Larsen
Screenwriter
Colette "ByFilms" Byfield Thank you, Colette! :-D 
4 years ago
Karl Lareine
Screenwriter
Thank you for sharing this post Sille, it`s very encouraging!
4 years ago
Thank you for the inspiration and the truth.
4 years ago
I'm an actor in LA and I've had 45 auditions with no bookings!  Not altogether. That's straight in a row without one job. Longest slump I've ever had. Last one was last week.  Finally started to get discouraged.  Don't plan on quitting, though.  Instead, I am using the hiatus we are on now for reflection and focusing on other areas of my life.  Need to fill up the tank, so to speak, which is currently running on fumes.  I plan to come back to acting in the fall when hiatus is over. I think the time off will give me perspective. I already know I need to get into a good acting class. So I am planning on that in the coming year, when I am working full time again.... What can I say but that this industry can be brutal. You can be good, but not good enough...  Good article Sille!  I definitely relate to what you say. If anyone out there relates, please share your stories. Would be curious to know. :)
4 years ago
Sille Larsen
Screenwriter
Hi James, first I´m glad you can relate to my post! I don´t want you to wait until the fall! In this industry, you can´t really take a break if you want to become successful inside this industry and that is why I´m telling you this! You have to find a new way in! Going to auditions isn't always enough! Sometimes you need to do more than that - Try to find an actor in here or somewhere else and reach out to them and ask them what they did to get the role, try to do some acting class as you say, it can really help because the people who host or teach in these classes actually know the industry, they are probably in it already, so it's a win-win! I really don´t think you should wait. This summer is a huge opportunity to breakthrough this industry because the world gets back to normal and the film companies need new actors! If you wait until fall your chance won't be as big as it can be over the summer!  - Best wishes! 
4 years ago
The word "no" is a stair I use to climb higher to success.
4 years ago
Shanika Freeman
Music Composer, Playwright, Screenwriter
Great post! I love the quote you mentioned, "the more we share, the more we learn." This is something to live by for sure.
4 years ago
Sille Larsen
Screenwriter
Thank you Shanika! I love it too! :-D 
4 years ago
Eyiara Olugunna
Actor, Author
So encouraging! Thank you for sharing Sille :)
4 years ago
Sille Larsen
Screenwriter
My Pleasure Eyiara :-) 
4 years ago
Christian Nommay
Screenwriter, Transmedia Producer, Author, Content Creator, Motion Graphic Design
Thank you very much, Sille! Fortunately, I'm handling rejection way better now, but this is the kind of article I would have loved to read when I started.
4 years ago
Sille Larsen
Screenwriter
My pleasure Christian! -  I'm glad to hear you are handling the rejection the right way! For us who don't know how it works, it can really ruin our hope and dream if people just ignore us or we get that no. - Hope other people will handle it as you do after reading this post! :-D 
4 years ago
Ryan Cho
Director, Actor
Love this, thanks for sharing!
4 years ago
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