Inspiration from the chair | Destiny Shackleton

Hi, I’m Destiny Shackleton, I was born with a rare condition that affects my muscles and joints called arthrogryposis multiplex congenita. I use a power chair instead of legs to get around, which kind of gives me a unique perspective. I live an awesome life full of opportunity and adventure. But growing up was really tough. All I could see were the things that I couldn’t do. My life seemed pointless and hopeless. I was angry, fearful and depressed. I spend a good chunk of my twenties this way. What a waste... But, what a gift... It gave me a perspective from which I can share. I was in a very dark place, a place I know many people feel trapped. I can share where I was, what I did, and how things can change I was depressed and afraid. I was afraid I’d never get married, never be a mom, never have anything I wanted in life. I thought I’d never be loved. I hated myself. I believed I was unworthy and undeserving of love. I had no purpose. So here is what I believe: Every challenge is an opportunity. We can have anything and everything we dream of. The only things stopping us is ourselves... Our own limited beliefs, our own fears, our own attitudes... We create the blocks that keep the good things away. I believe contribution and fulfilment lead to happiness. I believe giving value leads to a sense of accomplishment. I believe we need purpose. Ok... So How did I get to this place? I believe Awareness is the first step. Realizing that the beliefs you have are just that, beliefs, and not necessarily true. It isn’t easy and it takes courage and a willingness to keep going. For me, it’s ongoing. It’s making decisions, making choices, taking action, everyday. It’s All About Women has really been like a best friend for me... because every day there is an uplifting message in my email and It really helps to keep me on track.. I would love the opportunity to give back and lift others as I have been lifted. My strengths, I think, are Empathy in Communication, my Honesty, Authenticity, & my ability to be Vulnerable I’m not untouchable... I’ve experienced pain and suffering,emotional and otherwise. I have a unique experience to share when you look at it really isn’t that unique. And as Alanis sings what it all comes down to is that I haven't got it all figured out just yet. I am so grateful for my life and hard lessons I’ve had to learn. I am also grateful for this opportunity to be a part of the "It’s All About Women" community in some way. Thank you for viewing my video submission.